There comes a time in our lives with the conditions we have that we have to come to a place of acceptance of what now is. It is not giving up to come to the point of accepting our limitations that we have because of our pain and physical problems. It is not a fun day to acknowledge to ones self that we are no longer who we use to be. Once I figured that out that I was now no longer able to climb stairs or drive or go shopping etc. and now focus on what I can do made my situation more tolerable. Once the grieving stage of our losses are done we now have to get on with living life where you are now and doing the best you can with what you have and who you are now. No longer do I concentrate on what was ,at least I try each day, to do so only makes me miserable and I will NOT continue to tear myself up over what was. This is my life NOW and I WILL NOT spend what little life I have left crying over spilled milk , now I do my best to be grateful for what I allow to grace my life. Now I find ways of living as fully as my body will allow me to and be happy with that. It does not change what I deal with, it does not take away the constant pain and disability but it does make it more tolerable and it does make a way for joy to enter into my life once again, although it is not what it use to be, at least it is better than living a life in despair and hopelessness.
"While there is no scientific evidence to show that the law of attraction works, it makes sense to me to adopt an attitude of positive expectancy as it seems true that what you focus on grows. When we focus on our pain and disability instead of something more positive and life affirming, our miserable life almost becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. Positive expectancy primes us to be on the lookout for events and experiences that fit with what we choose to believe and thereby offering up more positive life experiences. " Another way to say this is "Energy flows where attention goes." If I spend my whole day focusing on my pain and disability I will never get anything worthwhile done that day. I am well aware on days where my pain is through the roof that I have to work even harder to focus on something more positive and if and when I do the pain many times takes a lower position in my thoughts and life at that moment. I find I must be vigilant to keep the energy of my life flowing toward what I really want my life to reflect, I do not want to be known as a miserable and depressing person , one that no one wants to be around, hell I don't like being around such a person let alone me being one. I take up this challenge every day, it is a choice I have to make every morning and through out my day, and yes many days it is all I can do to just get up and go to the bathroom, some days I am not that good at it, but with practice I am getting better at it and that is all that matters.
